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I'm thrilled to share with you the forward for the second edition which will definitely have a new title. I'm keeping that juicy bit of information under wraps until publication so stay tuned.I've been working hard and am almost finished the second edit, ONE MORE TO GO!
I am SO proud of the work that's been put into this beautiful tribute to the survival of my life and how it's empowering and healing other women's lives as well.
I am overwhelmed and touched deeply by the words expressed by a woman whom I admire so much in this forward that she prepared for me.
Thank you Dr. Abbott for your contribution to my life and forward for my second edition
With Gratitude - Deborah
I met Deborah at a very stressful yet opportune time of my life. A job interview. Deborah was on the selection panel. I was familiar with some of the panel which made it worse; although I don’t recall meeting Deborah before. I needed to perform because I wanted the job. I recall the session vividly and I also remember a few panel members well. Deborah was one of them. As a student representative on the NorQuest College Board of Governors Deborah was confident and inquisitive. This is the woman I have known.
Now, imagine a little girl with a loving family; perhaps one that is a little idealistic but one that we all hope for. A mother who teaches her daughter that anything is possible, mentors her as she transitions through puberty and provides her with the ‘something old, something new, something blue’ on her wedding day. A father who loves his little girl and treasures her for her curiosity to learn, encourages her to challenge stereotypes and teaches his daughter about how young men should behave in the early dating scene and throughout a strong marriage. Where siblings squabble and grow to appreciate one another. A family who has the glue that keeps them balanced in times of instability because of their deep love for one another.
I wish this was Deborah’s story. It is not.
I encourage you to read on. But I have to say, reading Deborah’s words, the sentences and her story disturbed me. And this was not a momentary bother, the feeling lingers. I could not sleep, I was bothered by the tone at times and the chosen words. How could a father, a brother and a mother treat a child and young woman so poorly? How could they not see the initial innocence in her bright smile? Her need to be cared for and loved?
I have not experienced what Deborah has, and I hope I never do. Early on in my reading path I wondered about the possible distortion of memory but as I made my way through the story I concluded that this must be real, it must be true. Why else would Deborah put herself in a position of telling this story? Other than Deborah, I have not met anyone in this book. But I cannot help feel disdain for those who seemingly imparted such mistreatment on this young woman. No one should have to endure the emotional and physical abuse that Deborah writes about.
The upbringing of a child should be done with tender affection because the possibilities for the future are endless. Yes, there will be challenges along the way, but every human life must be nurtured and cherished. What is amazing about this story, is that regardless of Deborah’s horrific childhood and a lack of strong role models, Deborah has learned from her own journey. She has instilled love and care in her two children, a special brother and her husband. And although she talks of disdain for her father, somehow she came to understand him. She nurtures her mother who struggles to be the caregiver and instead the one who needs to be cared for. And somehow, I am not sure how, she talks of forgiveness of her brother.
Now knowing Deborah’s story, I think that she brought her life experiences to the classroom as she completed the Mental Health Rehabilitation Program at NorQuest College. Her story became the catalyst for her transformation. And her story epitomizes the NorQuest personality “challenge positive”. One thing that is clear in Her Story: Victim to Victorious is Deborah’s ability to capture hope. Hope that with every household move, that every friendship a young child and woman made, that every interaction with a seeming mature adult, would blossom a trusting relationship. And at an important crossroads of her life, Deborah found this in one person; herself. Confidence and blue skies.
Prepared by Dr. Jodi L. Abbott